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By Tina L. Jones
Have you tried to get your guy to commit, only to fail miserably? Are you tired of feeling trapped in a relationship that doesn't seem to be going anywhere? Do you want to know strategies that can help you to get your guy to commit so that you can take your relationship to the next phase? So many men cringe at even the mention of commitment. This makes it really hard to know how to approach the subject. However, there are three strategies that you can use to help your guy move into the commitment phase.
The first step in getting your guy to commit is to communicate. This may seem really scary, but your guy won't know where you are in the relationship if you don't communicate with him. You can't reasonably expect him to simply do something without you talking to him first. He may be completely comfortable with where your relationship is and be oblivious to the fact that you are not. Try to approach the subject without making accusations. Focus instead on how you feel. This will let him know that you are ready for a commitment without pressuring him into doing the same. Be aware that this talk might cause him to pull away. This is a very normal reaction in men but is not an indicator of his love for you.
The next step is to take action. This is where you start to draw your guy back in. Instead of nagging or complaining, you will, instead, take action. Start spending more time away from him. Spend time traveling. Spend more time with friends and family. Go shopping. Do anything and everything that makes you happy. The main point is to make sure that you do these things without him. Make your schedule full, and do not reschedule anything in order to spend time with him. If he truly cares for you, he will start to become concerned that he is losing you. He will really start to think about his actions. Your talk about commitment matched with your absence will give him a clear picture that if he wants to be a part of your life, he will have to step it up a notch. There is the possibility that this won't phase him. In this case, move to step three.
Step three is to be saved as a last resort. This step is also to be used with caution. If used for the wrong reasons, this step could ruin your relationship. In this step, you will expand your options. If he is still insistent on playing the field, it is now time for you to consider that he may not be willing to change. This could mean that his feelings for you aren't true. It could also mean that he needs a serious wake up call. Either way, if he refuses to commit, then realistically, you shouldn't have to commit either. During this time, you should really start to consider that another man might be more willing to give you the relationship you need.
It is important to understand, you cannot make anyone do anything that they don't want to. However, by following these three techniques, you will either get your guy to commit or find another man that will.
