By Harry Hogan
Indeed there is no greater feeling other than loving and being loved in return. Love is such a powerful force. It unites kingdoms, it enables one to exceed capabilities, and it brings forth a special kind of courage and strength. When you look around, there are all these excitement of sudden declarations of love. On the other hand, there are also a number of abrupt separations. Perhaps they too were caught up in the many myths related to love. Read on to find out the greatest of them.
True Love Happens Only In Fairytales
True Love doesn't exist. This is one of the greatest present misconceptions. The truth is, true love for them is not possible, because in the first place they don't know what true love is, and if they do, they do not have the capability to emulate it. The core of true love is selfless giving. True love is to give wholeheartedly without expecting anything in return. True love is putting yourself last and placing the needs of others as a priority. Simply think of a mother breastfeeding her child each time the child feels hungry. No second thoughts involved, no reservations, the automatic action is to give happily; this is true love. If you can love as much as this, then you know how to give true love.
Love Fades
Some people seem to believe that love may fade somewhere in a relationship. "I just fell out of love." This is a great fallacy and millions still use this reason. True love doesn't just happen. It is nurtured for years. It is strengthened by the quality of time you willingly give for one another and the struggles that you choose to overcome together. One doesn't "fall out of love", instead one or the two of you simply ceased to maintain it. When you continue to do actions, allot time, or just 'work for it', love will last.
Love Completes You
"You complete me", "You make me whole", "I could never live without you". Don't you just love it when someone tells you this? In truth, whether if it were said sincerely or just to flatter you, these lines should serve as a warning sign. It is not you or your partner's responsibility to make you feel complete. How can you expect to give wholeheartedly when you don't even feel complete by yourself? Work on your personal contentment first. Learn to love yourself, and know that you on your own are special and worthy. When you have achieved this, the abundance of love in your heart will overflow and pour to that significant person. Love will then be on the right perspective because you do not expect anything from the other.
Love Is All You Need
Now don't be easily swayed by all these love songs that says love is all you need or love will keep you alive. The truth is, love alone is not sufficient. You need to have the perfect communication. This means being able to understand, listen to or interpret each other's feelings in words, actions or simple gestures. You have to enjoy your conversations whether they involve serious matters or random day to day talks. You also need patience, the ability to listen and understand and teamwork.
Love Changes A Person
No, your love will not create change in a person. You may have heard about real life stories about how people changed when they got married. It was wrong to assume that they changed because they found real love. What really happened is that they enforced change within themselves because of the awareness of real love. They realized their responsibilities, mistakes, or inadequacies and they were mature enough to answer to all of those. No one has the power to invoke changed within us but only us because it is only we that have the power and control over our emotions and actions. A person will change not primarily because of you, but because they 'wanted to'.
