By Teddy Holz
Jealousy is a passion that festers in insecurity. Many people feel jealous from time to time. Jealousy is easy to deal with, once you understand what it's teaching you. Jealousy is a fear that you are not as good as others or an envy of what they have. People, who are always jealous of everyone else, are afraid their need will not be met. is a fear that you are not as good as others or an envy of what they have. People, who are always jealous of everyone else, are afraid their need will not be met.
Here are some pointers on working through your emotions and feelings of jealousy.
To beat the monster, list:
* Five principles by which to pattern your life... Follow them.
* Ten good qualities about yourself. One way to change your belief system and inner dialogue, is to journal on a daily basis supportive messages to yourself.... Post them so that you don't forget them
* Ten things about yourself that disappoint you... Single out those you can change and work on them. Forget the rest.
* Five long range goals you want to realize. Then enumerate the immediate steps necessary to attain each.
High anxiety can precipitate jealous attacks.
Three ways to reduce stress:
- Relax in a way that's been successful for you in the past. Possibilities: Exercise, meditation, a bath.
- Imagine the situation that is about to occur. Foresee the possibilities for jealousy. Conjure up positive resolutions.
- Recall your past achievements. Restore your self-esteem by reminding yourself, "I'm fine the way I am".
Jealous fits between mates can be controlled through reassurance and emotional support. You and Your partner must share confidences.
Bottom Line: By and large, a trace of jealousy can perk up a relationship. It keeps both partners alert to the desirable qualities in the other.
