Get One Of His Friends' To Talk To Him-
A really quick way to find out what he's hiding is to have a friend talk to him about it. He will always speak the truth with a buddy who he trusts', and who knows will understand and support him. Explain the situation first to his friend, that you are trying to make things' right.
Ignore Him-
Stop talking to him altogether. Give it atleast 3 or 4 days and see how he starts acting towards you. He will most likely start showing concern and wonder what is wrong. That is a good time to be direct with him and be more open with you.
Approach Him Like His Friend-
How would you approach him if he was a good friend of yours? How differently would you react to him? You definitely wouldn't be as emotional with him. You wouldn't take things in a personal way. You would listen more to what he has to say, and be there to support him.
Even if your boyfriend has a personal issue with you, you must look at it in a non-personal way. The objective is to help him get out his feelings and express himself. If the problem is personal go in with the notion that you can change whatever it is to make things works.
Right now it seems like there is something getting in the way of your mans' feelings. He remains quiet most of the time and there seems to be something bothering him that he won't reveal to you. You fear that it might be you who is making him feel this way, but it's hard to tell because he won't open up about anything. If you are dying to find out what it is, and would like a sureshot way to finally get him to talk openly with you. Then pay attention to the following tips that will make your man share everything
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Be Direct-
If you really want to know, just go up to him and ask him straight up. Don't try and use any strategy or try and be smart about it. "Just tell me what it is that's bothering you". Don't ask him in a worried or fearful way. He will sense your concern and will not answer you that way. Instead, talk to him like to want to get it out in the open and move beyond it as fast as possible. "Let's get this out in the open so we can move forward and live life." Something like that. Show him that you are someone that likes to resolve problems, and you don't hold on to problems.
If he isn't willing to come out in the open, then you must tell him that you will do something about it. Giving him time alone is a very good idea at this point. He needs to be put into the scenario where he is forced to make a choice, otherwise it will just carry on like this.
Ellen Lapointe
