As women, many of us were not only raised to be traditional wives, we were groomed to be the perfect wife and Mistress of the House. We were not groomed to be women. As a result some of us head straight into marriage or we get married. What then happens is, because we do need to go through the process of being a woman, we start "acting" out in our relationships. We want our independence and we feel stifled. Some of us refuse to be like our Mothers and the other women we saw around us, so we stayed single and became an Independent woman.
We took on the task of grooming ourselves to become women. Unfortunately, we still have the subconscious programming of being the perfect wife who is to be submissive to her husband. The woman we now are now starts an internal battle with the wife we were groomed to be. It becomes a struggle especially if we are heading towards a relationship and we begin to fear becoming the kind of wife we saw growing up.
However, we don't need to hold on to everything that we were taught. It did work for those women we saw while growing up. However, we can begin to work on what it means for us to be a wife. Some of the teachings we were taught can still serve a purpose for us, but we don't have to hold to everything we were taught. Think about some of the things you were taught. Do you feel good when you think about it? If not, then you have just discovered what does not work for you. If it feels good, then you can incorporate it with the woman you are today. Your mother may have been the perfect wife and mother, but that worked for her. You do not have to take on your mother's life because then you would be living her life. Create and work on what it means for YOU to be a woman and a wife. Only then will you be happy in the decisions you make as a woman and as a wife. Because those decisions will be one and the same.
Instead of being quick to run into a relationship with someone else, it is essential that you get to know yourself first. Spend some time alone with yourself before you spend it with someone else. Know how to live alone before you know what it is to live with someone else. Get to know your likes and dislikes. Even if you never had the opportunity to be independently single and you are now in a relationship, you can still take time for yourself. Develop your own self-interests separate from those of your partner. By taking time to know yourself, it will bring you closer to you and to your partner because you will also begin to understand them. It will help to open up the communication between the two of you. Most importantly, when you begin to focus more on your self-interests you will be able to change the dynamics of your relationship to one that is in alignment with what you desire in a relationship.
After growing yourself to be the perfect woman that you want desire to be, by combining the traditional things you were taught with who you are now, you can now become the perfect wife that you desire to be. You will now become The Perfect Woman, The Perfect Wife!!
By Trudy-Ann Ewan
We took on the task of grooming ourselves to become women. Unfortunately, we still have the subconscious programming of being the perfect wife who is to be submissive to her husband. The woman we now are now starts an internal battle with the wife we were groomed to be. It becomes a struggle especially if we are heading towards a relationship and we begin to fear becoming the kind of wife we saw growing up.
However, we don't need to hold on to everything that we were taught. It did work for those women we saw while growing up. However, we can begin to work on what it means for us to be a wife. Some of the teachings we were taught can still serve a purpose for us, but we don't have to hold to everything we were taught. Think about some of the things you were taught. Do you feel good when you think about it? If not, then you have just discovered what does not work for you. If it feels good, then you can incorporate it with the woman you are today. Your mother may have been the perfect wife and mother, but that worked for her. You do not have to take on your mother's life because then you would be living her life. Create and work on what it means for YOU to be a woman and a wife. Only then will you be happy in the decisions you make as a woman and as a wife. Because those decisions will be one and the same.
Instead of being quick to run into a relationship with someone else, it is essential that you get to know yourself first. Spend some time alone with yourself before you spend it with someone else. Know how to live alone before you know what it is to live with someone else. Get to know your likes and dislikes. Even if you never had the opportunity to be independently single and you are now in a relationship, you can still take time for yourself. Develop your own self-interests separate from those of your partner. By taking time to know yourself, it will bring you closer to you and to your partner because you will also begin to understand them. It will help to open up the communication between the two of you. Most importantly, when you begin to focus more on your self-interests you will be able to change the dynamics of your relationship to one that is in alignment with what you desire in a relationship.
After growing yourself to be the perfect woman that you want desire to be, by combining the traditional things you were taught with who you are now, you can now become the perfect wife that you desire to be. You will now become The Perfect Woman, The Perfect Wife!!
By Trudy-Ann Ewan
