Combating Jealousy

By Teddy Holz

Jealousy is a passion that festers in insecurity. Many people feel jealous from time to time. Jealousy is easy to deal with, once you understand what it's teaching you. Jealousy is a fear that you are not as good as others or an envy of what they have. People, who are always jealous of everyone else, are afraid their need will not be met. is a fear that you are not as good as others or an envy of what they have. People, who are always jealous of everyone else, are afraid their need will not be met.

Here are some pointers on working through your emotions and feelings of jealousy.

To beat the monster, list:

* Five principles by which to pattern your life... Follow them.

* Ten good qualities about yourself. One way to change your belief system and inner dialogue, is to journal on a daily basis supportive messages to yourself.... Post them so that you don't forget them

* Ten things about yourself that disappoint you... Single out those you can change and work on them. Forget the rest.

* Five long range goals you want to realize. Then enumerate the immediate steps necessary to attain each.

High anxiety can precipitate jealous attacks.

Three ways to reduce stress:

1. Relax in a way that's been successful for you in the past. Possibilities: Exercise, meditation, a bath.
2. Imagine the situation that is about to occur. Foresee the possibilities for jealousy. Conjure up positive resolutions.
3. Recall your past achievements. Restore your self-esteem by reminding yourself, "I'm fine the way I am".

Jealous fits between mates can be controlled through reassurance and emotional support. You and Your partner must share confidences.

Bottom Line: By and large, a trace of jealousy can perk up a relationship. It keeps both partners alert to the desirable qualities in the other.

Forcing People to Change Doesn't Work But This Does

By Nick Samuel

If you want to be known as the charming person or something that has a lot of friends then there is one big thing that you will have to know. It is actually more than knowing, it is something you must do all the time and it is something that you can't fake.

Acceptance is one of the biggest things that you can change to make and keep new friends and it is generally overlooked. Everyone wants to be accepted, in fact, it's fair to say that everyone craves acceptance. Even if the person is thought of as a loner, there are usually one or two people that he will want to be accepted by. A person enjoys when they can be relaxed around someone who accepts them for who they are.

People are never comfortable around a person that is a fault finder or is always critical. They also tend to avoid people who try to force them to change into something that they do not want to be.

When you are hanging out with your friends, then just let them be who they are. If they have a funky quirk or something weird about themselves, then don't get them to try to change it. Setting up standards for people will not help you get new friends. Let them have a little leeway in how they act. In fact, if you can learn to love their idiosyncrasies than might even have a friend for life and it won't drive you crazy. You might even laugh about it.

It can be surprising but by accepting people for who they are will actually help them change if they want to. You can never change a person by forcing them, but if you show them acceptance then they will want to do it for you. Just think about how many wild guys you have known who have been tamed by their wives. It's not because the wife forced them it was because the wife supported him and he wanted to change because of this.

Being accepting of people can go a long way not only in your personal life, but it can also have huge ramifications for your working life also. Since you don't get to choose the people with whom you work with, it is better to learn how to accept them for who they are. Notice though, that I didn't say you had to hang out with them, but you will make your life at work much better when you accept them for who they are.

Things That Guys Find Attractive

Accept it or not, every girl wishes to find place in the likings of the opposite sex. Even if you do not want men lusting after you, the wish to be attractive in their eyes is there for sure. If you too nurse the same wish, then it is essential that you firstly familiarise yourself with the things that men find alluring.

Your physical appearance is among the most obvious and crucial part of being attractive to men. It can be difficult getting men to acknowledge you, if you are not looking your finest. And, as clichéd as it sounds, the male sex is more likely to notice women with great hair, a perfect figure and great complexion, above all others. Thus, it's prudent to work on your appearance before expecting to turn heads. In case you're overweight, lose those additional pounds. Also, pamper your hair and get rid of acne or any other such unseemly skin conditions to render your skin blemish free and fresh.

However, there is nothing that you ought to be disappointed about even in case you have not been blessed with the best of features. As long as you seem approachable enough, you're sure to have guys coming your way. As a matter of fact, many lovely ladies aren't frequently approached. The cause of the same is that exceptionally lovely females appear unapproachable, which could be intimidating for most men.

Nevertheless, as taken as they are with your external appearance; a guy does not necessarily favor girls who resemble models or cheerleaders. There are many guys who favor the girl-next-door look. In other words, they're looking for someone low maintenance, who's also fun to hang around with. So, if you want a guy to notice you; let your 'down to earth' qualities shine through.

Another thing that could attract guys is hygiene. If you appear unkempt and unhygienic, you're bound to scare away gents. Having a good skin and shiny, fragrant hair alone cannot be enough. Pay attention to your breath too. In case you have an acne prone skin, then too, you might appear to be unhygienic to many. Nevertheless, you could set the trouble right with the help of effective products such as Zenmed Skin care System.

Recent reports indicate that men find gals with strong faith and confidence levels attractive. By faith, it does not mean chanting Buddhist mantras or being hooked to a particular religion. Faith just indicates belief in your values and yourself. Males find it pretty enticing to have ladies who are extremely confident about what they believe in.

An open mind is also attractive for most men. The reason why open minded girls are valued so highly is because it enables the males to indulge in some free space of their own. Besides, a broad minded individual is also more receptive of distinct views and ideologies. This certain trait can also make things easier in a relationship.

In case you could imbibe any of the above features, you're sure to find place in the 'wanted' list for males.

Complacency and Long Term Relationship

By Alex Ryan

It is easy to get complacent when you have been in a long term relationship. This complacency can lead to problems in a relationship.

You can get around this complacency by having a date night. You need to take your partner and go do something you both enjoy. There is magic in the simple act of going on a date. The idea gets ignored too much after the initial courtship.

Keep it simple. The importance is that you are going on a date and not how flashy it is. A marriage can benefit from the simplest of dates. No need to spend tons of money and try to impress your spouse. Money is not the answer.

The idea is that you need to be by yourselves for a little while. You need to do this on a consistent basis to keep the sparks flowing.

Women make assumptions that you do not want to be with them especially in public. Going on a date can alleviate this concern. Dating keeps the excitement alive and reduce to boredom leads your spouse to feel rejected. Do not take this risk or assume that it cannot happen to your relationship.

Make a goal of setting regular times to go out with you spouse. Go outside the mainstream and do something sometimes besides dinner and a movie. A dinner and movie still is better than nothing.

An atmosphere of romance needs to be created between the two of you. Get creative and push the envelope. Do something spur of the moment like playing miniature golf or recreate when you got engages.

Plan ahead and get a babysitter to watch the kids. Keep a list handy of family members or friends who can watch the kids so you can go on a date. Your relationship and sex life will flourish if you have regular alone time

Greatest Love Delusions of All Time

By Harry Hogan

Indeed there is no greater feeling other than loving and being loved in return. Love is such a powerful force. It unites kingdoms, it enables one to exceed capabilities, and it brings forth a special kind of courage and strength. When you look around, there are all these excitement of sudden declarations of love. On the other hand, there are also a number of abrupt separations. Perhaps they too were caught up in the many myths related to love. Read on to find out the greatest of them.

True Love Happens Only In Fairytales

True Love doesn't exist. This is one of the greatest present misconceptions. The truth is, true love for them is not possible, because in the first place they don't know what true love is, and if they do, they do not have the capability to emulate it. The core of true love is selfless giving. True love is to give wholeheartedly without expecting anything in return. True love is putting yourself last and placing the needs of others as a priority. Simply think of a mother breastfeeding her child each time the child feels hungry. No second thoughts involved, no reservations, the automatic action is to give happily; this is true love. If you can love as much as this, then you know how to give true love.

Love Fades

Some people seem to believe that love may fade somewhere in a relationship. "I just fell out of love." This is a great fallacy and millions still use this reason. True love doesn't just happen. It is nurtured for years. It is strengthened by the quality of time you willingly give for one another and the struggles that you choose to overcome together. One doesn't "fall out of love", instead one or the two of you simply ceased to maintain it. When you continue to do actions, allot time, or just 'work for it', love will last.

Love Completes You

"You complete me", "You make me whole", "I could never live without you". Don't you just love it when someone tells you this? In truth, whether if it were said sincerely or just to flatter you, these lines should serve as a warning sign. It is not you or your partner's responsibility to make you feel complete. How can you expect to give wholeheartedly when you don't even feel complete by yourself? Work on your personal contentment first. Learn to love yourself, and know that you on your own are special and worthy. When you have achieved this, the abundance of love in your heart will overflow and pour to that significant person. Love will then be on the right perspective because you do not expect anything from the other.

Love Is All You Need

Now don't be easily swayed by all these love songs that says love is all you need or love will keep you alive. The truth is, love alone is not sufficient. You need to have the perfect communication. This means being able to understand, listen to or interpret each other's feelings in words, actions or simple gestures. You have to enjoy your conversations whether they involve serious matters or random day to day talks. You also need patience, the ability to listen and understand and teamwork.

Love Changes A Person

No, your love will not create change in a person. You may have heard about real life stories about how people changed when they got married. It was wrong to assume that they changed because they found real love. What really happened is that they enforced change within themselves because of the awareness of real love. They realized their responsibilities, mistakes, or inadequacies and they were mature enough to answer to all of those. No one has the power to invoke changed within us but only us because it is only we that have the power and control over our emotions and actions. A person will change not primarily because of you, but because they 'wanted to'.

3 Killer Strategies to Getting Your Guy to Commit

By Tina L. Jones

Have you tried to get your guy to commit, only to fail miserably? Are you tired of feeling trapped in a relationship that doesn't seem to be going anywhere? Do you want to know strategies that can help you to get your guy to commit so that you can take your relationship to the next phase? So many men cringe at even the mention of commitment. This makes it really hard to know how to approach the subject. However, there are three strategies that you can use to help your guy move into the commitment phase.

The first step in getting your guy to commit is to communicate. This may seem really scary, but your guy won't know where you are in the relationship if you don't communicate with him. You can't reasonably expect him to simply do something without you talking to him first. He may be completely comfortable with where your relationship is and be oblivious to the fact that you are not. Try to approach the subject without making accusations. Focus instead on how you feel. This will let him know that you are ready for a commitment without pressuring him into doing the same. Be aware that this talk might cause him to pull away. This is a very normal reaction in men but is not an indicator of his love for you.

The next step is to take action. This is where you start to draw your guy back in. Instead of nagging or complaining, you will, instead, take action. Start spending more time away from him. Spend time traveling. Spend more time with friends and family. Go shopping. Do anything and everything that makes you happy. The main point is to make sure that you do these things without him. Make your schedule full, and do not reschedule anything in order to spend time with him. If he truly cares for you, he will start to become concerned that he is losing you. He will really start to think about his actions. Your talk about commitment matched with your absence will give him a clear picture that if he wants to be a part of your life, he will have to step it up a notch. There is the possibility that this won't phase him. In this case, move to step three.

Step three is to be saved as a last resort. This step is also to be used with caution. If used for the wrong reasons, this step could ruin your relationship. In this step, you will expand your options. If he is still insistent on playing the field, it is now time for you to consider that he may not be willing to change. This could mean that his feelings for you aren't true. It could also mean that he needs a serious wake up call. Either way, if he refuses to commit, then realistically, you shouldn't have to commit either. During this time, you should really start to consider that another man might be more willing to give you the relationship you need.

It is important to understand, you cannot make anyone do anything that they don't want to. However, by following these three techniques, you will either get your guy to commit or find another man that will.

A Relationship Can Survive After Infidelity

By Briana Taylor

The one person you found you could trust has just betrayed you. How selfish can someone be? How ungrateful and inconsiderate? These may be some of the reoccurring thoughts that run through your mind when your significant other admits or is caught doing the unthinkable. However, there are a few things that you should consider before pointing fingers. There is one side of the story, then there is the other, then there is the ugly truth.

"About 60 percent of men and 40 percent of women will have an affair at some point in some marriage." states therapist, Peggy Vaugn, author of "Monogamy Myth." It is not uncommon for infidelity to happen in today's society. With easily accessed internet dating sites it is actually more common to be unfaithful or to find a partner that is.

However, through research and personal experience, I have found that with real love, real commitment and honesty, a relationship can be saved from the rearing head of adultery. To begin, you have to ask yourself a few key questions and make a few difficult decisions.

First the Questions: The questions will be the same regardless if you are the cheater or the cheat-ee.

Question 1:
Are you really still in LOVE with this person?
LOVE, NOT lust, infatuation, comfortability, financially dependence, routine-dependence.... LOVE. Just because they have been in your life 2 years or 60 years does not mean you are in love with them. No matter what the age, if you are unhappy, you can find someone else. However, if you are absolutely, positively, unquestionably in LOVE with your man or woman, please see question 2.

Question 2:
Why did your significant other cheat?
You have to REALLY consider the reality of this question. For example, yes that two-timing, scumbag husband cheated on his wife... But what if the husband told you his wife stopped looking at him, she commented on his weight, lack of success, and completely stopped having sex with him? Flipside: Yes, that dirty sloot slept around on her poor working husband... but what if she told you the last time she had romance was 4 years ago and the last time she saw him for more than 30 minutes was the for the meal she made him eat, then he took 6 business calls before he went to bed with an Ipad in his lap followed by his morning flight to Chicago.

Everyone knows there is a way to avoid cheating.. file for divorce, separate... but sometimes infidelity is a WAKE UP CALL.

Decisions:

Decision 1:
If you are not in LOVE with this person as we discussed earlier... Break up. File for Divorce. Move ON!! If you are clearly miserable with this person that you are NOT in love with... WHY ARE YOU WITH THEM? Be selfish, as they were and make yourself HAPPY. You only have one life and why use it trying to MAKE a relationship work when there are MILLIONS of options that are just WAITING to take care of you! No excuses.. "we have kids, we have a house, we have a dog, we have a car, we have a joint cell phone plan, we have a gym membership, he/ she has my cds.." the list is of excuses are just excuses.. the only excuse that allows you to repair your relationship is love. If you are STILL in love.. See Decision 2.

Decision 2:
Okay, so once you have been cheated on (have cheated), you know you love the person that cheated (or that you cheated on), and you want to patch the relationship... You have to do 2 things:

1. You have to be completely honest about how you feel, what happened and with whom. On the account that it was not your significant other's family member you can go on to 2.

2. This dilemma in your life that has devastated you both must be buried. If you want the relationship to move forward you must absolutely, under NO circumstance, EVER bring it up again.

Understand that everyone makes mistakes. Everyone has impulses and urges that need to be fed. Often after someone has cheated, they feel remorseful and realize that hey have committed the ultimate crime in monogamy. With this intense guilt comes understanding. There is sometimes am epiphany that goes a little like this, "I will never ever do that again, it was not worth it, and I will forever try to be everything my spouse wants, to keep them." They learn one of two things, they do not deserve you or they need to step up to give you what you deserve.

4 Reasons Cheating Ruins So Many Marriages

T. Dub Jackson

Cheating ruins marriages. It's a fact. It doesn't ruin every marriage it touches but it is a common enough culprit in the end of marriages that it's worth keeping in mind if you ever think of doing it again.

There are some who would argue that we live in a world that is somewhat jaded to the idea of monogamy but that isn't really the case. There is still an expectation of fidelity in marriage that is bone deep for many mend and women entering into marriages today.

But, why is cheating so harmful to the modern marriage?

1) A Failure to Communicate. What we have here goes beyond a mere failure to communicate. It's often the lies that are told in an effort to continue or maintain the affair that cause the most problems in the marriage. The breakdown of trust is major for many men and women on the receiving end. Lies beget lies and pretty soon there only communication being had is one lie on top of another. By the time the truth does come out your spouse has no idea what to believe any more.

2) It Promotes Insecurity in Your Spouse. Cheating on your spouse makes your spouse feel like the proverbial red-headed step-child. It doesn't instill confidence in self or in your marriage. In fact, it tears those things down. It sends the message to your spouse that he or she isn't good enough somehow and that you found someone better on the side.

3) Damages the Finances. Cheating isn't cheap. Hiding a relationship with another person requires some investment on hotels, takeout, and countless other odds and ends expenses you would otherwise not have. In the current economy every single penny matters. Many people rob savings accounts and retirement funds in order to hide the costs involved in cheating. When the spouse finds out it is devastating financially as well as emotionally.

4) Cheating is Risky Business. It's sad to say that in this day and age that would even need to be mentioned. Of course, with nearly 60% of all people in a committed relationship admitting to having cheated, it must be said. Not only are you endangering your health but also the health of your spouse who is likely not to be protecting against STDs from you. You can't be too careful when it comes to safe sex and far too people in the throws of a torrid affair are careful enough.

Long Distance Relationships - 8 Tips For Making Yours Fun, Fulfilling and Successful!

By Yangki Christine Akiteng

"Everything would have been fine if we lived in the same town/state/country," is the common reason many men and women give for a long distance relationship not working out.

Admitted, distance can put an enormous strain on a relationship, but claiming that "distance" is the only reason a relationship didn't work out or can not work is putting your hands over your ears and shouting, "la-la-la-la-la-la- land" because the truth is too much to handle.

I've met many men and women who won't even try long distance relationships because according to them "Long distance relationships just don't work".

That simply isn't true! Long distance relationships CAN and DO work if the two individuals involved want it to. In my opinion, the question is not "Do long distance relationships work?" but rather "Do both of you want to make it work?" If you both want to make it work, distance is just another obstacle that two people who truly love each other can easily overcome -- if they really want to.

These simple to follow tips will help your long distance relationship not only survive distance, they'll also help you lay a strong foundation for a relationship that is fun, fulfilling and successful!

1. Talk at least once a week

Technology has made it easier than ever to keep in touch long distance. A few quick emails, text messages and phone calls at least once a day (or even once a week) create a sense of being fully engaged in each other's lives. Your relationship success depends on you being connected, so set aside uninterrupted talk-time to "catch up" on each other's lives.

If the other person can't make time for even a 10 minutes' conversation, but has time to go out with friends, go to a party, go the gym, cook or even sleep, get a clue, that person isn't into you as you want to think. If the other person is truly interested in you, he or she'll show all signs of not only wanting to continue the relationship but to move closer. And if s/he truly loves you that much, s/he'll not only create the time for you, s/he'll put talking to you top most priority on his/her list of things to do. You on the other hand have to be realistic and not try to suck up all his/her time because you're dripping with neediness.

2. Cultivate independent but inter-dependent lives

The time between calls and in-person reunions can be pure torture if you're spending all your time apart obsessing about the other person. You may find that you've put everything on hold to the point that no one else and nothing else is important or meaningful in life except being with him or her. You're consumed with constantly trying to test his or her love for you; doing things to try to make his or her need you, telling him or her about your "other admirers" etc. If s/he doesn't call or email you when you expect him/her to, you feel restlessness, rejected and unwanted. Some people become so needy that the other person just shuts down emotionally.

Instead of wasting so much time and emotions acting all clingy, needy and controlling, use the "distance" to develop and grow as an individual with your own independent life and who enjoys your own company. You'll feel more positively about "distance" when you feel positive about yourself, the other person, the relationship and life in general. A positive outlook is very important to the success of a LDR.

3. Let go of fear of abandonment/loss

Distance has a way of playing up anxiety and fear of the unknown. You miss him/her so much that you start imagining him/her cheating on you even when deep down you know that s/he is not the cheating type. Even when s/he has given you no reason to think that s/he might cheat, you tell yourself, "You just never know" or "Don't be a fool!"

If you are not fully prepared to trust your man or woman you have no business being in a long distance relationship because in LDRs, trust is everything. Without trust, there is little point in having the relationship. Without trust sustaining a long distance relationship is impossible.

Discuss your anxiety and fears with him or her and once you get the reassurance you need, LET IT GO. Truth is, if s/he wants to cheat, s/he will and there is nothing you can do about it. Give your mind some rest and concentrate on building a strong foundation for your relationship. It also helps for you to make extra efforts to be reliable, to do what you say you are going to do and to show that you're trustworthy. Trust cuts both ways!

4. Keep that sense of fun and romance alive

One of the most difficult things about long distance relationships is that you can't just turn to your man or woman and say "let's go for a walk in the park", or just drop in and ask him or her out for a drink. In the absence of these seemingly insignificant shared moments that most people in proximity relationships take for granted, it's easy for two people to become so stuck in the waiting, and the future, that they completely forget about now. The relationship slowly loses it's spark and eventually fades out.

To avoid this, try as much as possible to go out on "virtual dates". For example, decide to go watch the latest movie on the same day and then later call the other to share experiences, thoughts and opinions. Better yet, if time zones allow and if it's cost effective, rent a movie and watch it "together" with the other person on the phone. You can also play cards or games over the internet etc. And don't forget to flirt, seduce and tell him or her just how much s/he means to you and how much you love him or her. The important thing is to take the necessary steps to keep the sense of fun, shared interests, romance and passion alive.

5. Create a supportive environment

There'll be times when it seems like the other person is not bothered by distance, is happy that you're apart, or is having more fun. This makes you feel like you are the only one who "cares". So instead of trying to understand what's causing him or her to act that way, be supportive of whatever they're going through and encouraging of his or her efforts given what the two of you have to deal with, you start instructing, coaching, and scolding the other person for not "caring" about you or the relationship. Eventually all conversations become about how the relationship is neither right nor going anywhere. And true enough, you find yourselves living down to your own expectations.

It's had enough to have a long distance relationship without the constant nagging, instructing, coaching, and scolding of someone who consistently treats the relationship as a one person's property or business. Use that excess energy to create a supportive environment that fosters understanding, reassurance and cooperation. Sometimes all you need to do is listen. Don't judge and don't try to fix. Just listen. You can also bounce ideas off him or her, etc. Work as allies with the same goal.

6. Always have a plan for the next in-person reunion

Just knowing when you'll see each other again makes it easier to handle long distance relationships. Make the planning and preparing for the reunion a joint project. Share your thoughts and dreams of your re-union on a regular basis. This can make your coming together much more exciting, meaningful and special.

Be careful, though. Don't let expectations of how fantastic your reunion is going to be build too high as the reality often doesn't match up to the fantasy. Expect there to be awkward silences, many down times and even arguments. It's a relationship not a fantasy!

7. Make plans for one of you to move

Someone must move at some point in order to keep the relationship together. If you're both eager to stay together, then set a date for getting together - either moving in or, at least, living in the same town and "dating". However, if it's a new relationship or a relationship on shaky grounds hold off the "future together" talk until you both feel that the relationship has matured, is more stable or until the other person is ready. If the other person is not ready, it doesn't matter how much you want it, it's never going to happen. The "I am not going to wait forever" may just become "It's over"

8. Ignore people who say long distance relationships don't work

It's not easy and there are no guarantees -- same as in all relationships. But don't run away from your long-distance relationship because everyone says "Long distance relationships don't and won't work". Long distance relationships have worked and can work for you if you are willing to do the hard work. If you're both emotionally mature enough, and are devoted enough, distance can teach both of you to exercise deeper connections, and provide for objective and honest assessment of your feelings for the each other. Distance can also encourage a stronger foundation for the development of your relationship.

At a time when careers increasingly demand greater mobility, long distance relationships are not only a very attractive option, they may very well be the future.

Not even distance can stop true love!

How to Tell If He's Seriously Interested in Me? Discover How Serious He Really is Towards You

Krista Hiles

A woman wants to know the depths of a man's feelings towards her before succumbing to his charms. She does not want to find herself left high and dry after a while. If you too are wondering how in the world can you find out if he is serious about you, then these tips will come to your aid.

He will treat you like Dresden china 
How does he treat you? Is he constantly concerned about your well being? Does he go out of his way to make sure that you are happy and satisfied in his company? A man who seriously interested in you will not stop caring the moment you are out of his sight. He will do other things like call you and be in constant touch with you to see if you are all right.

He will want to show you off to his folk 
One of the most obvious signs that he is getting serious about you is when he does not hesitate but in fact insists on you meeting his folk. This shows that he is unashamed of his love for you. He wants his family to meet the girl who has captured his heart!

He will want the relationship to get stronger 
He will never be satisfied with just a dating relationship. If he is serious about you he will try to take the relationship to a deeper and higher level. He will push you into accepting him as a lover or partner. He will begin to treat you as "his property" and will get possessive about you.

He will always put you first in his life 
No man who cares about his woman will ignore her or give her least importance. If you find that he is ready to even put you before his best friends, then he is trying to tell you that you are first in his life. He will want to spend more time with you and will be in touch with you daily. What you want will become important to him.

He will propose 
Nobody can deny that when a man proposes to a woman, he is very serious about her! The fact that he is trying to get you to wear his ring tells you that he is ready to make a commitment to you. This is the extreme step a man will take when he seriously loves a woman.

He will show that he is not averse to making a commitment 
Where usually the very mention of the word "commitment" and "marriage" may make a man run for his life, this will be a welcome topic for a man who is seriously interested in you. In fact he may be the first one to initiate the topic of marriage and the future with the woman he loves.

He will be faithful to you in everything 
It is easy to see if a man is going to be committed to you by his character and behavior. If you have found your man to be faithful in everything then you have hope. He will be a man of integrity, loyalty and steadfastness. He will have no problem keeping his word.

How to Keep Your Long Term Relationship Alive

By Alex Ryan

Couples who have been together a long time have a tendency to take their relationship for granted. Taking a relationship for granted may have a detrimental impact.

If you want your relationship to last, do not forget to keep dating your partner. This is often scoffed at and deemed unnecessary. Dates are simple and effective. They should not be overlooked. Romance is needed to keep a relationship solid. A date is a way to help this.

Sparks still need to fly in a marriage. Dating can make this happen. They do not have to be fancy dates with tons of money spent. Simple and thoughtful is better.

Alone time is essential. Couples need to be separated for everyone else for a time on a regular basis. Love and romance can be kept alive just with the simple act of dating.

Dating is imperative so your spouse does not assume that you do not want to spend time with them. Women often assume that their spouse is embarrassed to be seen with them. Lack of dating can also induce boredom and conclusions that a spouse does not care for the other anymore.

Decide you are committing to regular dating with your partner. It is acceptable to go on the same kind of date every time but try to mix it up.

Expand your horizons. Do something that you have never done with your spouse before. This can create romance and bring a spark back to a relationship.

Married couples with kids have the added challenge of needing someone to watch the kids. Be willing to hire a babysitter or have a friend or family member take care of the kids. The kids will be better off with your relationship being stronger. Dating can help your sexual relationship as well, particularly if you are able to get some secluded time for this.

tips for relationship success

What's the key to successful relationships? Here, the simple things you need to know to deepen your partnership and make your relationship work



1. Without quality time, your relationship will not survive. Carve out at least half an hour a night, and at least one day a month when you the two of you spend time exclusively together.



2. You will both need security, comfort. A good relationship is built on compromise and a great deal of give and take on both sides.



3. Keep your dependence and independence in balance. Tell and show your partner how much you need him, but don't cling, as that can make your partner feel trapped.



4. Encourage him to listen to you, by showing appreciation when he does. By the same token, show interest when he talks to you. Be aware that most men aren't mentally programmed for conversation in the way women are. They need more silence and internal time.



5. Make him appreciate you. Don't wait for a spontaneous compliment, but say something good about yourself and ask for his agreement.



6. Teach him, preferably early in your relationship, exactly how to give you a fail-safe orgasm because it's unlikely he'll find out alone. If you don't yet know yourself, find out.



7. Learn to do the one thing that is most likely to restore good feeling in your relationship - giving your partner a genuine, loving and approving smile.



8.Often those subtle quirks that first attracted you to your partner can, with time, turn around and become toe-curlingly annoying habits. Learn to love him, warts and all.



9. Hidden resentments poison a relationship; so if something bothers you, say it. Remember that while men are wary of emotional conversations, they love to find solutions. Express your problem and then ask him to help you find the answer.

BY Susan Quilliam

Maintaining a Lovely Partnership

Some couples look very happy while some look unhappy all the times. There are some guidelines that can compose your partnership more comfortable and lovely.




Dialogue is the best option to start with. Avoid whining about your issues and try to resolve the rift. Be cordial with your partner, even if you wholeheartedly disagree with everything they're saying. A confrontational demeanor will truly get you nowhere if you take this approach, so it's important to be gentle.



You should talk about the things that are significant in your partner's life. Your interest in his or her life will certainly help to bridge the gap between you people.



Enjoy every moment life grants you. Organize picnics, enjoy barbeques, and go in parks together. Give each other some space. Present flowers to her, let him read the news paper, all these kinds of acts will bring live and harmony in the relationship.



Always appreciate good thinks that your partner has done to you. Your love should be able to overcome any weakness in the relationship. Make love a solid reason to strong your bond.



It's a great thing to be with your partner. Tolerate little mistakes and ignore big ones. Just value each other's presence be thankful all the love she gives you.



Never disappoint on things you don't have but feel proud for what you have got. Look around you and take a look on the blessings you are blessed with. We have home, good food, electricity, where as many people don't have them. Share your dreams with your love one and talk about achieving them.



Live your life with zeal and fervor. This is essential to have a happy couple. Partners who live happily can have every good thing on their side and make most of the moments they get. If you stand together then you will overcome every difficulty that may come in your way.
Alex Ryan

How to Be Romantic

There's something about a man in uniform that get's a woman's attention. I first noticed it when I came home on leave for the first time and attended a community dance. Suddenly I had the eyes of so many beautiful women on me. It kind of scared me at first, because they had barely noticed me before. But I did manage to enjoy the attention, for sure.
Romance Found
That's when I first saw my wife, Gertie, the most beautiful woman in the dance hall. Well, wouldn't you know it, she practically ignored me. I was the one who had to win her heart. (I later found out that she did notice, but was determined not to inflate my ego any further.)
Herein began my lifelong learning on how to be romantic. You see, there's a whole lot more to romance than wearing a cool uniform or paying special attention at Valentines, birthdays, anniversaries and holidays. In fact I find these events quite bothersome because they often lower the dance of romance to a guilt-ridden, money sucking kind of phoniness. Now, I don't mean you should not spend money on your sweetheart, but it should never be a substitute for the real thing.
The whole idea of romance is to show your desire and appreciation for your loved ones in thought, word and deed. And to do that you have to awaken your inner romantic.
When you fall in love, you are always thinking of your sweetheart as you go about your day. You find ways to please them and show your passion for them. So if you want a lifetime of love, always be in this state of romance. Don't fall into the monotonous trap of rigid routines.
Too many relationships these days are broken, inevitably the result of poor mentoring, inconsistent attention and selfish expectations. Well now, you don't have to end up lonely or forever seeking another one to fill your empty heart anymore.
Here are some never-fail tips to get you into the heart of romance. By the way, these will appeal to any kind of romance. It is not restricted to intimate couples only.
1. Get Into The Feeling of Romance:
Slow down enough to appreciate the beauty of a sunset, the blossom of a flower, the unconfined wonder of a small child, and so on. For you men out there, this is not mushy stuff, this is just how natural living really feels like. How can you create that feeling of romance with a woman, if you don't try it on for yourself? As they say, "Try it, you'll like it!" It's about getting into the mood for romance in a very effective way.
2. Be Creatively Thoughtful:
Tune into your loved one. Breathe into what you really love about her. Think of a small, special gesture you can do that is outside your agreed upon regular routines and duties.Get creative here: a single favorite flower, a short poem, a special errand, an unexpected gesture, and so on. As you practice, these simple ideas will keep multiplying and you'll never be at a loss.
3. Show Your Affection:
Get to know what your beloved likes. Don't reserve your affection only for your private intimate times. Make her feel special in public too: hold her hand, flirt a little, give her a sweet embrace, toast her at dinner, or cook her a special meal. You'll get to know what pleases her. For instance, I quickly learned that Gertie hates being whistled at in public, it embarrasses her and makes her feel cheap.
These three romantic tips will make you a very rich man in many ways. I can certainly attest to it. And you don't have to be slick or perfect at this. Your beloved will feel your genuine effort and return your affection thousandfold. So go for it. You have nothing to lose!
By Gordie G

How to Spice Up Your Love Life

It is quite common to find the flame of passion flickering after years of togetherness. This is an inevitable element of most long-term relationships. So, in case you are experiencing a dip in your love life; you should realize that you're not the only one in this dilemma. And, while you could choose to live in a marriage that has lost its spark; you can also conclude to do something about it by adding some spice to your love life. Here are a few uncomplicated and absolutely doable suggestions to help you with the same.
Sometimes, the only thing required to refresh your love life is a spontaneous break from reality. Go away with your partner on a romantic getaway. You don't need to book yourself on an expensive cruise to feel the love. Heading over to a close by town instead, might prove to be just as relaxing and rejuvenating for your love life. After all, the essential purpose of the trip is to merely get away from your dull and boring routines.
Finding yourself in a new place with your other half itself will pull the two of you closer to one another. While you pack for your romantic getaway, make sure that you pack well. You can carry along some romantic candles, your best dresses and not to forget your favourite anti acne product i.e. the Clearpores Skin Cleansing System.
Look great. This is one of the most important things which you have to do if you want the romance to remain alive in your relationship. You can not expect your partner to be hooked to you if you are not physically attractive. If you are overweight, then drop those extra pounds. You can seek help of weight loss supplements like Caralluma Burn Appetite Suppressant for the same. Spruce up your dressing style and revamp the way you look.
Go back to your pre-marriage dating schedule. This is one of the finest techniques to recover passion in long term relationships. Just because you are staying together now, doesn't mean that you can't indulge in the things you did in your courtship period. So, go out for a film or a nice romantic dinner with your other half as you used to before. And, while this may mean increasing your credit card bill; it would be well worth the bucks invested.
Accessories don't merely spruce up your look, but also your love life. At times, an extra touch is all you need to spice up your relationship. Try lighting up some aromatic candles at the dinner table. Otherwise, you could give your spouse a nice massage or beautify the room with blooms. These small gestures may go at length in kindling the heat in you two.
Do not be disheartened about the love lost in your romantic bond. Just work out on the tricks suggested to get back the zing in your love life.
By Mabel Ivory

Confronting Matters Concerning Relationships

Very often we find unable to take a stand on matters concerning our relationships. Especially when it concerns our relationship with our girlfriend, then it calls for a serious introspection.
You should stay put in the relationship only if you are happy at heart and this should be the only consideration to keep it going.
If things are not ok between the two of you, you both should decide to give it a try and see or decide to breakup and part and get on with your lives.
Of course, you do not expect to be happy the minute you leave your girlfriend. It does hurt. But over a period of time you will get over it and make room for a new relationship.
Sometimes it does happen that no matter what you do, you feel moody and bad. It could just be one of those days. Don't let that wear you down.
You will know when your connection with your girlfriend has broken and it is over. No matter even if you both live together, when it is over you know it for yourself. It is better to let go and open new chapter in your life than to expect things to happen with your girlfriend and magic to come back into your relationship.
Have you tried talking this out with each other? For all you know your girlfriend may be clue less about your feelings and not aware of how you feel about the whole thing. Don't you think you should sit down and have a frank talk with her and see if she is able to make some changes that can help both of you improve your relationship?
You do need to give ample opportunities until you are convinced that things are not working out and that it is back to where it started. Then of course there is no point in suffering further and let go.
 By Val McQueen

How to Make Up After a Big Fight

Misunderstandings are inevitable in any kind of relationship - even with romantic couples. And fights will always come along. When disagreements come on a very tiring day or at a very frustrating moment, you'll most likely end up shouting at each other and having a deafening silence after. Whatever the reasons of your fights are, whoever is the culprit or whoever is the most at fault, the most important thing is how to patch up things back. You can get tired of the fights and the way she shouts at you. You may say you want no more of it but the most important thing really is how to make up after a big fight.
Let me walk you through it.
Take some quiet time.
The silence may be deafening but this moment actually helps. It makes you think. It allows you to replay the event in your mind and have an evaluation. Eventually the two of you will see each other's points and will be able to weigh how things should be really done. Cooling down is important in order for the two of you to be able to think properly and wisely. Deciding on the disagreement while angry won't do the two of you any good.
Apologize with sincerity.
Do not force yourself to say sorry just to end the argument. Apologize, only when you really mean it. There will be times that it will take a long time before your pride will let you say that four-letter-word, but it's better to not say it than let it spill without meaning it at all. If you will think about it, whether you started the fight or not, you will surely have something to apologize about. So think things thoroughly and make sure that in your heart of hearts, your apology is meant with sincerity. She will be able to feel it. That's for sure.
When you're sorry, mean it.
Saying sorry is one thing. But showing that you really are, is another. That is how the game of life goes, whenever you are at fault and after you have admitted your deficiencies and shortcomings, it's time for you to show her how much sorry you were. You can cook for her in the morning or invite her to dinner the following night. It is important that you let her know that despite your differences, you still love and value her. And when she says sorry back, accept it with all your heart.
Talk things through once more with calmness.
Now that the two of you have admitted each other's mistakes and now that the two of you have shown how sorry you were, it's time to talk things through again. Explain your side and be honest. Let her know why you got upset. Share with her your inner most feelings about the subject. Do not be afraid to admit that your weaknesses or fears have made you fuming and irritated. By confiding what you really feel to her, she will surely have her heart melting and who knows?! You might end up winning the argument! Remember that communication is the key. Also, it's not what you say but how you say it.
Let go.
What's done is done. It is never helpful to re-open wounds. Let go. That's why sincerity and honesty is important in making up after a big fight. Because, if you aren't really sorry with what has happened, if your forgiveness is not sincere and you don't really mean all your apologetic gestures, you will end up holding a grudge against your partner. That won't solve anything. And it could even lead to a more serious fired up arguments and fights.
By Toby Hardwick

The Good Things About Relationships

It is natural for people to pair bond, and relationships having many advantages. It is no secret that there are a variety of things couples share that singles cannot have.
Usually, people will think of all the great emotional advantages of being in a couplet. Things are never as bad if you can share your problems or concerns with your significant other.
Your own emotional stability is general more settled when you are in a relationship as you have each other to anchor your needs. Also, the empathy and understanding you develop by being in a relationship will allow you to bond with other people too.
But it is not only the emotional aspects of your life that will improve, it is also your physical wellbeing. You will sleep more, you will probably eat healthier, lower your blood levels, and also have a good sex life, all from being in a relationship.
You will also accrue some fantastic mental advantages from being with someone else. It has been scientifically shown that people who have spent their adult years in a relationship retain their mental faculties for longer than singles.
Also, you will find that you have a lot more social possibilities if you are in a relationship. Just by being with someone else, your spread of contacts and friends expands, and will keep growing.
Finally, you need to remember that when you are part of a couple, it will be better financially. Generally speaking, couples have better incomes than those who are on their own.
Right from the start of our lives, we are told all about getting a soul mate and how this is a vital part of our lives. As we can see from the above endorsements, it is not only good for us to fall in love for love's sake, but it is good for our mental wellbeing, our wallets, and our social lives.
By David Leek

How to Stay Healthy in Love

Love is enduring...
Love is irresistible...
Love is to be adored by another person...
Love is affectionate towards someone else...
Love is to be fond of someone...
Love is the dearest feeling...
Love is given to your sweetheart...
"Love is not jealous, love does not brag, love is longsuffering, and does not get puffed up," and that's right out of the Good Book!
This is how we wish it could always be, but this is not realistically how it is always. However, that doesn't mean love can't stay healthy. In order to stay healthy in love, when problems arise try to understand the others persons point of view while trying to discern intent or motive behind an act. Don't always jump to a negative conclusion, which is not always the intent.
Think of when you're not feeling well. You go to the doctor to discuss the issues and find a solution in order to feel better. You go home take the doctors' advice and follow their direction until you feel better. Likewise that same solution you search to find from your doctor should be the same work you put into keeping your love healthy.
Communicate, communicate, and then communicate some more. Learn to make adjustments in order to make a success of your relationship. You think one way; your mate may think another way. It's not weak or a failure to adjust things about you to make it work, that takes strength to say, "I will change." Don't stay on an issue; learn to deal with it and move on. Pondering on failures only injure and add to hurt feelings. Things will always come up, remember the old sayings, "For better or for worse," "Through thick and thin," "Through the good and the bad." Learn when the chips are down know love will always stick around. Love can be like a kiss as the sun is setting.
Healthy love trusts their mate. Healthy love can rest assured their mate will always be around to lift your spirits and make you smile. Healthy love doesn't sneak around or have to spy. Healthy love does not always fight and argue. Healthy love will never try and get back at their mate. Healthy love is not overly demanding. Healthy love doesn't seek all the attention. Know you are separate people with separate thoughts and wants. Don't expect your mate to think or act like you. Don't expect your mate to know what you're thinking. Don't set the bar higher for your mate than you would set for yourself. Learn to communicate your thoughts to your mate. Deeply and truly care about the views and concerns of your mate. Try to consider your mate instead of always thinking of yourself first. Remember it's always better to give then to receive. Give your love to your mate wholeheartedly without strings attached or waiting for them to go first. Tit for Tat is very unhealthy. Do things from your own heart. Even if for that moment you don't get it back. Eventually it will come back to you. Usually when you get something back it's always greater than you imagined it would be. Be kind, kindness go a long way in love. It takes more effort to think of something devious to do and it's much easier to be kind.
To stay healthy one must work vigorously on it. The same with love, in order for your love to stay healthy continue to work vigorously at it. Medicine can help make you physically well; love can make you emotionally and physically healthy.
By Veronica Allen-Anderson 

Is There Something Getting In The Way Of Your Mans' Heart? Learn How To Instantly Open Him Up

Get One Of His Friends' To Talk To Him-

A really quick way to find out what he's hiding is to have a friend talk to him about it. He will always speak the truth with a buddy who he trusts', and who knows will understand and support him. Explain the situation first to his friend, that you are trying to make things' right.

Ignore Him-

Stop talking to him altogether. Give it atleast 3 or 4 days and see how he starts acting towards you. He will most likely start showing concern and wonder what is wrong. That is a good time to be direct with him and be more open with you.

Approach Him Like His Friend-

How would you approach him if he was a good friend of yours? How differently would you react to him? You definitely wouldn't be as emotional with him. You wouldn't take things in a personal way. You would listen more to what he has to say, and be there to support him.

Even if your boyfriend has a personal issue with you, you must look at it in a non-personal way. The objective is to help him get out his feelings and express himself. If the problem is personal go in with the notion that you can change whatever it is to make things works.

Right now it seems like there is something getting in the way of your mans' feelings. He remains quiet most of the time and there seems to be something bothering him that he won't reveal to you. You fear that it might be you who is making him feel this way, but it's hard to tell because he won't open up about anything. If you are dying to find out what it is, and would like a sureshot way to finally get him to talk openly with you. Then pay attention to the following tips that will make your man share everything
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Be Direct-

If you really want to know, just go up to him and ask him straight up. Don't try and use any strategy or try and be smart about it. "Just tell me what it is that's bothering you". Don't ask him in a worried or fearful way. He will sense your concern and will not answer you that way. Instead, talk to him like to want to get it out in the open and move beyond it as fast as possible. "Let's get this out in the open so we can move forward and live life." Something like that. Show him that you are someone that likes to resolve problems, and you don't hold on to problems.

If he isn't willing to come out in the open, then you must tell him that you will do something about it. Giving him time alone is a very good idea at this point. He needs to be put into the scenario where he is forced to make a choice, otherwise it will just carry on like this.
Ellen Lapointe

Maintaining a Relationship

Take Responsibility for Yourself
Learning to take responsibility for your own feelings and needs is one of the most important choices you can make to improve your relationship. Instead of trying to get your partner to make you feel happy and secure, you need to learn how to make yourself feel happy through your own thoughts and actions. When you learn how to take full responsibility for yourself, then you stop blaming your partner for your upsets. You can do this by learning to treat yourself with kindness, care, compassion, acceptance and loving care is vital to a good relationship.

Fears
Most people have two major fears that become activated in relationships: the fear of abandonment - of losing the other - and the fear of engulfment - of losing oneself. When these fears get activated, most people immediately protect themselves with controlling behavior: anger, blame, judgment, niceness, compliance, caretaking, resistance, withdrawal of love, explaining, teaching, defending, lying, denying, etc. But by learning about fears instead of attempting to control the partner, fears will eventually heal. This is how we grow emotionally and spiritually - by learning instead of controlling.

No Interference Do not allow other people to interfere with your relationship. If family members try to get in the middle of fights or debates, that is definite trouble. You might have friends with well-meant intentions trying to help you and your partner solve problems. While getting another person’s perspective is not a bad thing, make sure it is when you ask for it. It is very important to keep integrity in your relationship and not allow people to interfere. If you believe that something is bothering your partner or not right in your relationship, keep it between the two of you and work things out as a couple. Seek professional help appropriately when needed.

To Tell or Not to Tell While some things probably should be shared, think back to how much people grow through the teen years to mid-twenties. Offering unnecessary information from the past is a great way to create distrust, insecurity, and more questions than answers. Be wise when sharing.

Respect Privacy When two people come together in a relationship, each person has their own set of history and possessions that have a special meaning. Do not dig through boxes of things owned by your partner out of curiosity. Instead, respect their privacy and allow them to bring those things out if they feel it is necessary.

Lighten Up
Do not take every comment, glance, or movement as a serious problem. If your partner makes a mistake, which you both will, let it go, or if appropriate, laugh about it. If you make a mistake, do not be afraid to poke fun at yourself. This will automatically start the process of breaking tension.

Adore your Partner Beyond telling your partner that you love them, that they are special, and having passion in your relationship, you should adore your partner and what they bring into the relationship. What that means is to appreciate and love them for the person they are, faults and all. This is true devotion to your partner and demonstrates that you do not take them for granted.

Marriage Teaches Us Even When it Doesn't Work Out

Having lived through two ended marriages, the day came when I finally had to look at myself. When the first one ended, I felt so alone and unloveable, I ate 50 pounds worth of chocolate chip cookies. Cookies were comforting until my clothes were all too tight to wear fit any more.
Notice I neglected to say "failed" marriages. If we live through marriage and divorce, we will learn something from the experience. Hopefully we learn about our own weaknesses and vulnerabilities. It is really his fault, right?
What did I learn? I learned how few inner resources I had. I could not validate myself much less anyone else. I felt ugly and stupid and totally undeserving of anyone's attention. I finally had to face one of my own shadows-I must not be loveable. What an inhibitor that turned out to be. I remember how I did not compliment my husband or tell him how great he was or how much he meant to me. No wonder he fell for someone who did those things for him.
Nothing tests relationship to self more than other people. If I'm upset by something someone says or does (other than physical violence), I need to look at my own inner psyche. If I'm not differentiated (secure in who I am and my value and worth), things I hear disturb me more than necessary. How secure I am? How do I respond to conflicts with others? Is there a tug in my gut? Do I react with defensiveness?
Am I nervous inside as I begin to speak? Do I get angry or hurt easily? Am I flexible or inflexible? Can I stretch to understand another's perspective? Do I walk away when others attempt to connect with me? Do I fight, or flee, or freeze? How do I face business and personal challenges like speaking opportunities, marketing opportunities, or interviews, or social occasions?
I fear public appearances as much as intimacy. They both expose me. If I can't find anything inside that grounds me and reminds me of my value, I'm be easily flustered. Positive intention lies in that vulnerability if I just listen. Deep inside self is a wound waiting to be healed. It wants to be found and opened and loved. Instead of fearing it or fearing others will find out about it, I can embrace it and adore it and share it. There's magic in sharing it. It lets others feel safe in sharing their vulnerability too.
So yes, divorce is hard. But I discovered my own potential. I'm still discovering it especially when I tune into the little voice of fear inside. It appears more often than I prefer. A deep breath and a reminder that I'm okay in learning more, lets my heart stop pounding, my voice stop quivering, and my hand stop reaching for another cookie.
By Pamela Simmons

The Perfect Woman, The Perfect Wife!

As women, many of us were not only raised to be traditional wives, we were groomed to be the perfect wife and Mistress of the House. We were not groomed to be women. As a result some of us head straight into marriage or we get married. What then happens is, because we do need to go through the process of being a woman, we start "acting" out in our relationships. We want our independence and we feel stifled. Some of us refuse to be like our Mothers and the other women we saw around us, so we stayed single and became an Independent woman.
We took on the task of grooming ourselves to become women. Unfortunately, we still have the subconscious programming of being the perfect wife who is to be submissive to her husband. The woman we now are now starts an internal battle with the wife we were groomed to be. It becomes a struggle especially if we are heading towards a relationship and we begin to fear becoming the kind of wife we saw growing up.
However, we don't need to hold on to everything that we were taught. It did work for those women we saw while growing up. However, we can begin to work on what it means for us to be a wife. Some of the teachings we were taught can still serve a purpose for us, but we don't have to hold to everything we were taught. Think about some of the things you were taught. Do you feel good when you think about it? If not, then you have just discovered what does not work for you. If it feels good, then you can incorporate it with the woman you are today. Your mother may have been the perfect wife and mother, but that worked for her. You do not have to take on your mother's life because then you would be living her life. Create and work on what it means for YOU to be a woman and a wife. Only then will you be happy in the decisions you make as a woman and as a wife. Because those decisions will be one and the same.
Instead of being quick to run into a relationship with someone else, it is essential that you get to know yourself first. Spend some time alone with yourself before you spend it with someone else. Know how to live alone before you know what it is to live with someone else. Get to know your likes and dislikes. Even if you never had the opportunity to be independently single and you are now in a relationship, you can still take time for yourself. Develop your own self-interests separate from those of your partner. By taking time to know yourself, it will bring you closer to you and to your partner because you will also begin to understand them. It will help to open up the communication between the two of you. Most importantly, when you begin to focus more on your self-interests you will be able to change the dynamics of your relationship to one that is in alignment with what you desire in a relationship.
After growing yourself to be the perfect woman that you want desire to be, by combining the traditional things you were taught with who you are now, you can now become the perfect wife that you desire to be. You will now become The Perfect Woman, The Perfect Wife!!
By Trudy-Ann Ewan